Flash forward June 25 / 2011

Ironically my last blog entry of me at the age of 17 I was on my way to Toronto. I was leaving behind all my friends in the Barbe family and going toward my yet to be lived adventures. Then I stop writing for a while . The irony is that my trip to Ottawa for my dad’s funeral turned out to be a trip back in time. I went to visit some of the homes I lived in . The farm was torn down but I was able to find a few remains of what was the barn steps or maybe the house. My sons were with me for this walk into the past. The place we lived in on Lyon St. was still there but was schedule to be torn down in 17 days. I got pictures before I returned to Calgary. When I returned on June 25 to deal with my family issues I also made arrangement to meet with my extended family and friends from when I lived on Gloucester St. . When I started writing this blog about a year ago I also started making contact with Doreen and Teresa Barbe . I arranged to meet with them when I got to Ottawa. The Barbe’s being the people that makes them so awesome not only arrange to meet with me but gathered together for the occasion over a BBQ. It was amasing seeing everyone. Doreen who was an awesome host and she looked so much like her Mom and Albert who looked the most like his Dad made me feel that I never left .They were of course not Albert senior or miss Barbe but definitely the same welcoming as there Mom and Dad would of given. I visited with Teresa Barbe the women I had such a crush on all these years . I visited with John and remenist on many things I had totally forgotten like me chasing him from dating my sister Jocelyne. I also spend time with Dominic The only man that I would truly say was a friend to me in my youth and still to this day. Everyone had aged of course but its was amasing to be united with them after over 35 years. I even met people I never thought I would see again like Nancy Bigras and Richard Beaty. Nancy and Dom reunited after years . They dated when we lived on Gloucester St. Sadly I found out that Richard Beaty was struck with a terrible muscular ealnest that is with him to this day. Sharon Mayhew who was Dominic’s wife and soul mate for years until she was struck down by cancer, wasn’t there and neither was little Louise and her special happy smile I will never forget. Sleep well Sharon and Louise we will meet again soon. I had a chance to relive some of my past with the only people I concider family . I ended my visit with a fishing trip with Martine Lantoine who was also and is to this day a friend forever to me. She actualy caught a nice size fish to my suprise! Dominic drove me to the airport and after a scary flight home that I survived I was glad but sad to get home. I will cherish this time forever in my heart.

Flash forward to April / 2011 My fathers death

On the month of April 2011 my Father past away. He had been sick for a long time until he finally died. You hear a lot about what happens to a family when a family member dies but what ever I may have herd would never prepare me for what was to happen next. It was a chapter right out of Gerry Springer show . Through out my blog I have made no secret that I resented my father . Over the years I made several attempt to move my parents to Alberta so I could care for them in the old years. My Mom would use excuses like my dad can’t travel because of his legs or that she can’t leave Micheline my retarded sister alone in Ottawa. This used to make me very angry because I reasoned that they were retired it was easier for them to move here then for me to relocate and find work. Anyway through out the years I rarely phoned home . I stopped phoning after my divorce I think and even then it wasn’t very often. I used to phone my Mom when I had good news to tell the problem is over the years I rarely had anything good to talk about So I stopped phoning. The truth is our whole family was scattered across Canada and we rarely called. I loved my Mom but I blamed my Dad so I was too angry to call. Anyway my Dad died and the only reason I found out was that my niece posted it on Face book .My niece had always been there for them while most of us stayed away most likely because of our relationship with our dad or just plain our life circumstances . She had jumped the gun when my Dad was sick and in trying to help my Mom convinced her to sign over access to her bank account so she could help her. My Mom is 80% deaf and blind so this wasn’t malicious But this ignited a family reaction that shocked even me. When I arrived there I spoke to Nathaly my niece to get the story of what was going on then headed to my Mom’s place a block away. There was no response to the door caller so I went up with my two sons. When my older brother reluctantly open the door I walked into find my Mom hiding around the corner terrified to even approach me. Finally after a few minutes she came and hugged me and cried in my arms. Rehal went on and on how Nathaly had tried to kidnap My Mom delaying me while my older sister Danielle was to arrive because he had called her. Right away when she arrived she started with “who’s side are you on” and accusation of theft and kidnapping by My niece. The more I tried to speak to my Mom the more she would caution her away to sit somewhere else. It was unbelievable . Since I was'nt given any information about my Dad’s funeral I did'nt book the right time off from work . Believing that if I leave all will calm down and my Mom will be able to grieve and since the funeral would'nt be for another week , I decided not to stay for it. After one last unannounced visit I returned to Alberta leaving My Mom in the hands of my lunatic brother and my insanely in raged sister Danielle. I tried calling from Alberta only to find that my calls were being screened. Then I found out my youngest sister Jocelyne went to the funeral and was assaulted by other members of our family who were there. That’s when I decided to cancel my vacation and go directly to Ottawa and deal with this. When I got there my Mom had already been moved and her phone number changed. With the police help I was abel to get them a number that they called. The update they gave me was that my brother Real was gone to Montreal and that my Mom was moved to a home. She said she would call me when things settled down but hasn’t yet . My sister Danielle’s poison seem to have turned my Mom against me. My Mom inherited some money and land from her sister Evette when she passed away and my guess is that is the motivation behind Danielle’s pushing everyone out of my Mom’s life and out of her will. If my Mom never calls me I guess her funeral will be the last time I pay her a visit. As for my family , when my mom dies I am cutting ties with most of them who were involve in the terrible disrespectful behaviour after the passing of my father. I have yet to morn my fathers passing and maybe never will until this dark chapter on our family history is forgotten.